As usual, I was reading through my blog reader this morning and was very pleased to find this quote in a post by Marilyn Elliott.
People with a will to love sometimes resist receiving love. They will not open their hands and lives to the love given by others. Maybe they do not believe themselves worthy of love, or maybe they like to be the strong one without needs who stoops to help others. To have a will to love without a will to BE loved is like living with half a heart. Those who desire to love this person can become deeply confused. What seems to be the will to love begins to look more like the will to be in control, or the will to be at the top. Receiving love is a humble human task. I have seen that to be human, every person must learn to willingly receive what they have not earned. (emphasis mine)
You can read the complete post here.