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A Few Thoughts


“… many that are first shall be last; and the last first.”

Mark 10:31

Give to those who ask, and don’t turn away from those who want to borrow.

Matt 5:42

Journey toward Love

St. Porphyrios of Kafsokalyvia treasured the following quote from the writings of St. Symeon the New Theologian. He had it printed and handed out to his visitors.

We should look upon all the faithful as one person and consider that Christ is in each one of them. We should have such love for them that we are ready to sacrifice our very lives for them. For it is incumbent upon us neither to say, nor think of any person as evil, but we must look upon everyone as good. If you see a brother afflicted with a passion, do not hate him. Hate the passion that makes war upon him. And if you see him being terrorized by the habits and desires of previous sins, have compassion on him. Maybe you too will be afflicted by temptation, since you are also made from matter that easily turns from good to evil. Love towards your brother prepares you to love God even more. The secret, therefore, of love towards God is love towards your brother. For if you don’t love your brother whom you see, how is it possible to love God whom you do not see?

For he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God Whom he has not seen” (1 John 4:20).

Fr Stephen Freeman


Wisdom and Knowledge
Knowledge is knowing that a Tomato is a fruit.
Wisdom is knowing that you don’t put Tomato in a fruit salad!
Brian Rosner

There is a difference between knowing something and knowing what to do with it and what not to do about it. 
I might know when I am right about something, but there is knowing whether or not to make a big deal about it. Something I think I need to apply more to marriage, parenting, faculty meetings, and social media!

Knowledge is factual, while wisdom looks towards practical application and takes into account broader considerations about context and consequences.
Knowledge is about knowing the what; while wisdom considers how and when to apply that knowledge.
Knowledge can be acquired through study and learning (or a quick Google search); yet wisdom comes from life-experience, mistakes, and reflection.
Knowledge should inform decisions, so we get the facts right; but wisdom provides the guardrails for how we use knowledge, and it helps us navigate the complexities in life. 
Pursue knowledge, yet act with wisdom!

Pray that “wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul” (Prov 2:10).

Michael Bird

Maybe someone should start an Opaque Church, where we could learn to give up one kind of vision in hope of another. Instead of wearing name tags, we would touch each other’s faces. Instead of looking around to see who’s there, we could learn to listen for each other’s voices.

Learning to Walk in the Dark: Because Sometimes God Shows Up at Night
Taylor, Barbara Brown


Prescient Quote: 1985


Human Institutions

“Human institutions cannot be equated with the kingdom of God, but until the full consummation of God’s kingdom, we will need human institutions to constrain us. Evangelicals, therefore, should rethink their longstanding anti-institutionalism. It’s wise to be wary of placing too much faith in a human institution, whether in government or anywhere else. But if the only alternative to governmental institutions that we have to offer is radical individualism, we probably need to reread the Bible’s teachings about the individual sinful proclivities that make institutions a necessary part of our fallen world.”

Daniel K Williams


“illusion of asymmetric insight.” 

The conviction that we know others better than they know us—and that we may have insights about them they lack (but not vice versa)—leads us to talk when we would do well to listen and to be less patient than we ought to be when others express the conviction that they are the ones who are being misunderstood or judged unfairly.

Emily Pronin 


Foreign Aid

a majority of Americans believe that the US spends about 25% of its budget on foreign aid. Most Americans believe that amount should be cut down to 10%. The problem is that in reality, the U.S. spends less than 1% of the budget on foreign aid.


Inner Religious Experience

Until someone has had some level of inner religious experience,?there is no point in asking them to follow the ethical ideals of Jesus or to really understand Christian doctrines beyond the formulaic level. We quite simply don’t have the power to follow any gospel ideal—such as loving others, forgiving enemies, living simply and nonviolently, or humble use of power—except in and through union with God. Nor do doctrines like the Trinity, the real presence of Christ in the Eucharist, salvation, or the mystery of incarnation have meaning that actually changes our lives. Without inner experience of the Divine, these are merely ideas in books. Without having what Bill Wilson of Alcoholics Anonymous called “a vital spiritual experience,” nothing authentically new or life-giving happens.

Richard Rohr

‘Ideas create idols. Only wonder leads to knowing.’

St. Gregory of Nyssa

ARCHIE update

4.5 lbs.

Thankful

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THE CHURCH – Losing the Battle for Attention (part 2)

“Why is it important that churches lose the battle for attention?”

My short answer to the first question at the end of part 1 is because winning the battle for attention points the church in the wrong direction. This post is intended to flesh out “the wrong direction”.
Winning attention is a key element of contemporary church growth strategy. The church growth movement (CGM) was started by Donald McGavern in the 50’s out of a concern for churches to be more missional.
Good intentions and missional principles of CGM were co-opted in evangelical churches and strayed from McGavern’s vision and intent.
Ed Stetzer states that the Church Growth movement went astray when it became overly simplified into a series of formulas for church growth, and ultimately led to the very thing McGavran sought to avoid, namely a new kind of mission station. Stetzer states too many of the churches following the emerging formulas became a socially-engineered mission station, which drew people out of their own cultures, into Christian warehouses and away from their neighborhoods and communities where they lived.1 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Church_Growth?wprov=sfti1#

In CGM the operative word is growth. The measure of success is numbers. From the business world discussions of strategy, mission statements, and vision statements entered the church through the movement’s major practitioners. Competition and winning become primary means, justified by the end …spreading the Gospel.

It stands to reason that if a church planter just uses the right laws of management, understands psychological needs, embraces the pietistic practices of Christianity, and makes a vow to a creed or confession that can be interpreted relative to purpose, then surely he will be successful and please God at the same time. And after all, look at what the church planter has done for God!2https://www.opc.org/OS/html/V8/4c.html

Church Growth Movement –

The Body of Christ –

CGM characterized by bigness: efficiency, leadership, success, hustle, increase, growth, excitement, effectiveness, passion; is a stark contrast to love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control of the body of Christ.

“The contemporary American church is so largely enculturated to the American ethos of consumerism that it has little power to believe or to act. 3Walter Brueggermann

The adoption of CGM, primarily defined by an obsession for growth, shifted the trajectory of western churches away from the person and work of Jesus toward consumerism.
“Yes, but look what is being done for Jesus”

It is not possible to pursue Jesus and be obsessed with bigness at the same time without one of them becoming diminished in the process.

Karl Vaters4 Desizing the Church

Vaters’ statement is provocative but serious and deserves attention. One fact that seems to be in agreement is that the western church is diminishing.

Perhaps this post’s title should be “Losing the Battle for Growth”. In the next post I will examine implications of abandoning an obsession for growth and what that might look like.

STILL ON THE JOURNEY

Additional reading: De-sizing the Church: How Church Growth Became a Science, Then an Obsession, and What’s Next

A Few Thoughts


“?‘Each of you must respect your mother and father, and you must observe my Sabbaths.
I am the LORD your God.
Lev. 19:3

He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.
And what does the LORD require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy
and to walk humbly with your God. 
Micah 6:8

Those who kept the sabbath killed Jesus.


Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.
Matt 5:7-9

 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.
Matt 7:38-42

You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor  and hate your enemy.’
But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
that you may be children of your Father in heaven.
He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good,
and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
If you love those who love you, what reward will you get?
Are not even the tax collectors doing that?
And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others?
Do not even pagans do that?
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”
Matt 7:43-48

Those who follow Jesus…


Every Person is a person

Never forget that every person on earth is a person Jesus died for. No persons are “people,” as the media describes them and as we’ve begun to see them, or rather unsee them. Every person on earth is like the rest of us, more or less—they laugh like us, they cry like us, they worry and wonder and want like us, they fear like us, they hope like us, they lose hope like many of us are losing hope, and they need love like all of us need love. If what your hearing and thinking and doing is not increasing your capacity to love, turn down, tune it out, and stop it, because if you can’t see the humanity in others you have already become blind to your own.

J D Spainhour


Artificial Intelligence

It’s a societal problem. The use of AI when writing shortcuts critical cognitive processes that we also use for making moral decisions, engaging in political debate, reading the Bible and other texts, understanding others’ perspectives, articulating our perspectives, knowing ourselves and our beliefs, and so on. A risk of AI is an illiterate and convictionless society, one in which we no longer process our own thoughts, values, emotions, or beliefs and we are increasingly incapable of processing those of others. We offload that processing to a machine. If that sounds familiar, it should. Before the rise of AI we were already on this track. People were already reading fewer books and engaging in vapid civic engagement on social media. Already people were forming their “beliefs” based on trending topics and YouTube influencers. But AI accelerates this trend. So this issue isn’t just about teachers complaining that students aren’t writing their own papers. This is an issue about the future of civic society. And I think we can all agree that civic society ain’t looking so hot as it is.

O. Alan Noble


Power

If God be not a tyrant, how can any of us? If God refuses to exploit God’s power, how can any of us exploit one another?
Scot McKnight


Religious affiliation

…according to an average of all 2023 Gallup polling, 68% of Americans identify with a Christian religion, including 33% who are Protestant, 22% Catholic, and 13% who identify with another Christian religion or simply as a “Christian.” (Only 7% percent identify with a non-Christian religion, including 2% who are Jewish, 1% Muslim, and 1% Buddhist, among others. Another 22% said they have no religious preference, and 3% did not answer the question.)


Grief

…learning from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross that “grief is the only human emotion that [has to] have [a] community to shoulder it. It cannot be borne alone.”

It takes a great deal of involvement within a community for grief to be expressed freely. It is the presence of the community that validates the expression of grief. This means that a singular expression of grief is an incomplete expression of grief.
Ritual: Power, Healing, and Community by an African scholar, Malidoma Somé

Somé compares the grieving process with a baby crying heavily just before falling asleep, saying, “Grief takes us to the top of the hill and then lets us walk back down slowly, peacefully.” We need some kind of process like that, something that helps us lead the world into the way of peace. Perhaps it will begin with sackcloth and ashes. It will certainly begin with repentance.
https://open.substack.com/pub/toomanywords/p/weeping-with-those-who-weepeven-when?r=1vlmt&utm_medium=ios

 “You can safely assume that you’ve created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do.”
Anne Lamott
“You can safely assume that God is recreating you in his image when you love all the ones God loves.”
Scot McKnight

A Closer look

The small flowers above abound in the grass in our area. They are sometimes described as Florida snow. Like a lot of things that are ordinary in our lives, a closer look reveals a loveliness often overlooked.


ARCHIE UPDATE

Look who moved up to a “big boy” bed! Hoping to extubate by the end of the week. Last weight was 3 pounds 7 ounces. 

So thankful. Keep up the prayers.


STILL ON THE JOURNEY

A Few Thoughts


A National Failure

The United States has lost more than one million people to overdoses since 2000 — more than the number of Americans lost in all wars in the past 150 years put together, including both World Wars. Yet neither Democrats nor Republicans have tackled the problem with the seriousness or nuance it deserves.

When nearly 3,000 Americans died in the Sept. 11 attacks, we reorganized the federal government and spent trillions of dollars in an (often misguided) effort to make us safer. Yet an even larger number die every week from drugs and alcohol, and we can’t even be bothered to provide effective treatment to most of those in need. This is a staggering national failure.

Nicholas Kristof


Religions

Religions devised for a social purpose [he wrote, more than seventy years ago], like Roman emperor-worship or modern attempts to ‘sell Christianity as a means of saving civilisation’, do not come to much. The little knots of Friends who turn their backs on the ‘World’ are those who really transform it.’

C S Lewis


Dissonance

in Ohiyesa’s words, ‘Christianity and modern civilisation are opposed and irreconcilable.’ In his 1986 book The Civilisation of Christianity, Catholic priest and theologian John L. McKenzie put the same point even more sharply. ‘There is a deadly and irreconcilable opposition between Western civilisation and Christianity,’ he wrote, ‘and one of them must destroy the other.’ If that’s true, then wielding the Christian faith as a weapon to defend this thing called ‘Western civilisation’ is a lost battle from the start. Our culture may have been nominally Christian five hundred years ago, but for a long time now it has been the culture of the Enlightenment, of modernity, of the Machine, of Mammon. It valorises not God but the world.

Paul Kingsworth


Jesus is the Center

Jesus Is the Center Some have described what’s happening in deconstruction as a kind of “centered-set” thinking. Time and time again, we’ve found that deconstructors want to get back to Jesus and want to base everything they believe on Jesus. They often describe a sensation of discovering the Bible all over again when they begin to read the Gospels once again. They describe a shift to thinking more like Jesus, acting more like Jesus, and letting Jesus’ vision for the kingdom reshape their life. He becomes the center of their life.

Centered-set thinking contrasts more directly with bounded-set thinking. A bounded set emphasizes boundaries. It defines who is “in” and who is “out.” It spells out in detail what an acceptable person must believe and how such persons should behave. Only those who are inside the boundaries can belong to the group. Uniformity characterizes the group, and the uniformity is conservative in the sense that it is neither flexible nor open to change. Either you’re in or you’re out, and if you’re in, you’re all in.

The common problem with bounded sets is determining how to define the boundaries. A bounded-set person could risk losing Jesus in their efforts to build walls at the borders of their faith. Deconstructors would say those who think this way have lost Jesus because they focus excessively on who is in and who is out, and especially on keeping the wrong people out.

Tommy Preson Phillips


Zero Sum Love

The problem comes when we think of love as like a kind of cake. There are only so many slices of cake and you have to be careful who you give them out to because sooner or later they will run out. In this way of thinking, love is a limited commodity where you have to be sparing who you love, because there isn’t enough to go round.

Yet divine love is a bit more like fire. When you take a light from a candle and light another candle with it, the first candle is not diminished, but continues to burn brightly. Fire can be passed on from one place to another and spread widely because it’s not finite in the way that a cake is.

Gtaham Tomli

It is not possible to pursue Jesus and be obsessed with bigness at the same time without one of them becoming diminished in the process.

De-sizing the Church/ How Church Growth Became a Science, Then an Obsession, and What’s Next 

Generalities

We live in a culture of statistics – and they hide a lot. They obscure us in the reduction of our lives to generalities. None of us is a percent. None of us is an aggregate. Each of us is a priceless treasure of whom God is mindful. You cannot count the hairs on the heads of humanity in general. But the hairs on the head of each of us is numbered . Sparrows do not fall to the ground in general. It is the single sparrow that God notes, and infinitely notes each sparrow, fallen and otherwise. This is the wonder of it all.

Fr Stephen Freeman


 A capella  Singing

Nadia Bolz – Webber

It is an extraordinary thing to be raised in community. And I didn’t realize during my childhood how unusual it is in America these days to really have such a tight knit community. So we saw the same people several times a week. And they would come to our house for devotionals, and we’d share meals, and we went to church, you know, Sunday morning, Sunday night, Wednesday night.

And then there was stuff in between, and so just regularly seeing the same people and having them in our lives, just that alone is pretty remarkable. And of course the singing was, um, absolutely extraordinary. 

It was my first language, truly, singing a cappella, four part harmony. I probably could do that before I could speak.

And it completely ruined me for all, for all other church music. I have never, never felt moved by an organ or a band, anything, but unadorned human singing. It has never, moved me in a way I think it does other people. But I always feel bullied by the organ, if I’m honest. Like, I’m a theologian in residence at a couple of big churches, like an Episcopal cathedral and a big Presbyterian church, and they have beautiful organs and magnificent music programs.

And I mean, as music, it’s nice, but I’ve never experienced it as worshipful in the way I have just acapella singing.


Certainty 

“In the course of a long life in the service of our Mother the Church, let me tell you that there is one sin I have come to fear above all others. Certainty. Certainty is the great enemy of unity. Certainty is the deadly enemy of tolerance.” 

Cardinal Lawrence (Ralph Fiennes), Conclave


Stupid 

Italian historian Carlo Cipolla once put it, “The probability that a certain person be stupid is independent of any other characteristic of that person.”

If somebody comes up to you and says, “I think I’m going to take a hike in a lightning storm with a copper antenna on my head,” stupidity replies, “That sounds like a really great idea!” Stupidity is the tendency to take actions that hurt you and the people around you.

German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer put it: “This is virtually a sociological-psychological law. The power of the one needs the stupidity of the other.”




Thursday 2-6-25

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A Few Thoughts

it’s easy to see our partner’s crap, all the ways they drive us crazy. It’s much more difficult for me to look at my own stuff, my own reactivity, and my own childhood experiences which wired me to react in certain ways in given dynamics.

It’s hard, she says, “for me to study my own reactivity.” In the midst of being annoyed with one we love, it’s hard to ask ourselves, “What was it about me?”

Dr. Alexandra Solomon via NSE notebook 


David French


Benjamin Cremer, a Wesleyan pastor 


We don’t come to God by doing it right. Please believe me on this. We come to God by doing it wrong. Any guide of souls knows this to be true. If we come to God by being perfect, no one is going to come to God. This absolutely levels the playing field. Our failures open our hearts of stone and move our rigid mind space toward understanding and patience. It’s in doing it wrong, making mistakes, being rejected, and experiencing pain that we are led to total reliance upon God. I wish it weren’t true, but all I know at this point in my journey is that?God has let me do just about everything wrong, so I could fully experience how God can do everything so utterly right. 

Richard Rohr


Of course it means peace.
But shalom is a word that overflows the boundaries of its own letters and irrigates other words.
Wellbeing. Harmony. Justice. Fruitfulness. Righteousness. Welcome. Union. And yes, Peace.
For all who, today as every day, long for shalom, in our heart, community, and world, this is a good prayer:

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you believe in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Jim Gordon


Jesus’ tool box

..one of the best tools in the toolbox of Jesus. Tell ‘em a story, a riddle, invite curiosity and imagination, and let’s see what becomes of a world like that. If Jesus wanted to be crystal clear, he would have written a book of philosophy, like Aristotle. Instead, he told stories.

Scot McKnight


Gentle Parenting

In neglecting the dark corners of a child’s soul, gentle parenting does children a disservice. For the fact is that most children know that they’re sometimes bad, and that they sometimes do things out of malice, spite, and greed. Gentle parents are right: shame and guilt are negative feelings which may cause “trauma” for the child, as for the adult. No kidding. But the job of the parent is not to prevent any potential “trauma”, it is to love the child even when they are bad, and to punish them, and most importantly to forgive them. A child can’t understand the lightness of forgiveness without understanding first that one needs it. (I often wonder if the parents also want to avoid the “trauma” of guilt and shame, and so never acknowledge their own reasons for doing the things we do, such as becoming parenting “philosophy” consumers out of vanity, pride, or sloth. We may one day have good reason to ask forgiveness from our kids.)

https://unherd.com/2024/12/the-cruelty-of-gentle-parenting/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email


ARCHIE UPDATE

Momma Gabby:
1 month (and some days) of Archie ? it’s been a big month for our tiny warrior! He graduated to a lesser vent which lets Kyle and I hold him and he is up to 2lbs and 8oz now! Please pray for continued growth, his care team, and for Kyle and I as we navigate this season of life. All Glory and Praise to our Father for this precious blessing!

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