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Dying Well 4.0 – the fear of death

Hebrews 2.14-15

With the exception of a few conclusions/comments, very little of this is post original to me. No surprise to regular readers, Richard Beck is my primary resource. His book “The Slavery of Death” has been formative in my engagement with the subject of death and dying. I highly recommend his blog “Experimental Theology” for current posts and as a great resource.

An important, perhaps the most important, factor in dying well is acknowledging our fear of death and it’s spiritual, mental, emotional and psychological manifestations in our lives.

The central contention of this book is that death, not sin, is the primary predicament of the human condition. Death is the cause of sin. More properly, the fear of death produces most of the sin in our lives.

Beck, Richard. The Slavery of Death (p. 3)

The following quote from The Slavery of Death summarizes Beck’s contention:

Through the power of death and the devil, sin that reigns in men gives rise to fear and anxiety and to the general instinct of self-preservation or survival. Thus, Satan manipulates man’s fear and his desire for self-satisfaction, raising up sin in him. . . . Because of death, man must first attend to the necessities of life in order to stay alive. In this struggle, self-interests are unavoidable. Thus, man is unable to live in accordance with his original destiny of unselfish love. This state of subjection under the reign of death is the root of man’s weakness in which he becomes entangled in sin at the urging of the demons and by his own consent. Resting in the hands of the devil, the power of the fear of death is the root from which self-aggrandizement, egotism, hatred, envy, and other similar passions spring up. In addition to the fact that man “subjects himself to anything in order to avoid dying,” he constantly fears that his life is without meaning. Thus, he strives to demonstrate to himself and to others that it has worth. . . Fear and anxiety render man an individual.
This passage is a concise summary of the entire argument to this point. As mortal creatures the selfish pursuit of survival and self-preservation becomes our highest good, and these survival fears lead us into all sorts of sinful practices. Almost every unwholesome pursuit of humanity—from hedonism to self-aggrandizement to acquisitiveness to rivalry to violence—can be traced back to these basic survival fears.

Beck’s assertions regarding the relationship between the power of death, devil and sin challenged my assumptions about Genesis chapter 3, original sin, salvation and a variety of other related subjects and passages. For that reason, it is a impossible task to do Beck’s case justice in this post.
I will say, after reading The Slavery of Death, I have embraced his belief — that death, not sin, is the primary predicament of the human condition. Death is the cause of sin. More properly, the fear of death produces most of the sin in our lives.”
My purpose is not to convince readers but hopefully stimulate curiosity, investigation and reading of “The Slavery of Death”.
Implications of the fear of death being the source of sin in our lives are profound. They not only effect our capability to die well, almost every aspect of our relationship with Christ is affected; from praxis and discipleship to spiritual formation and more. I cannot say you will be convinced, but I will say you will profit from the experience.

To conclude this post I will share a couple of observations that nudged toward my conclusion:

>Christian resistance to accepting death..

A recent Harvard study found that patients with high levels of support from their religious communities are more likely to choose aggressive life support and to die in intensive-care units. They were also less likely to enroll in hospice.

THe lost Art of Dying – L .S. Dugdale

Although religious communities are not defined, it is reasonable to assume a significant population oof the study to be Christian or hold some belief in life after death. My limited, anecdotal, experience supports the study’s conclusion. Why would people who believe in heaven fight vigorously using all possible means to avoid their enviable death? I believe the answer, at least in part, is a fear of death. The most honest testimony I have read describing the terror of death for a Christian was written by Pastor and Theologian Timothy Keller. You read his essay HERE.

>Evidence from ars moriendi


According to Tractatus artis bene moriendi, or “Treatise on the Art of Dying Well, there are five temptations faced by the dying. Of his eleven woodcut prints, five depicted those temptations,  and another five pictured their resolutions. This meant that the illustration of disbelief was paired with an image of encouragement in faith, despair was coupled with an illustration of comfort through hope, impatience with a print encouraging patience, pride with humility, and avarice with “letting go” of the earthly.
Those temptations are eerily familiar in the protracted dying experiences in our modern context.
Interestingly, temptation of disbelief, despair, impatience and avarice are continually present in the Christian’s life, when we yield to them we lead to sin.
Connecting the dots of between ars moriendi and temptations of everyday Christian experience, was a significant nudge toward Beck’s position.

I plan additional posts filtered through the lens of “death is the cause of sin”.

Dying Well 3.0 – End of Life

When I hear “end of life”, I think of the circumstances around the moment we die.
In the context of planning to die well “end of life”encompasses – days, weeks, perhaps months /years — preceding our death — a liminal space in which we have the opportunity to prepare for death. Commencing with an existential slap “End of life” begins with acceptance of our mortality, the sooner the better.
“existential slap”that moment when a [dying] person first comprehends, on a gut level, that death is close. For many, the realization comes suddenly: “The usual habit of allowing thoughts of death to remain in the background is now impossible,” . “Death can no longer be denied.1Nessa Coyle, a nurse and palliative-care pioneer,wrote
My “existential slap” occurred there years ago.


All of us project ahead a trajectory of our life. That is, we anticipate a certain life span within which we arrange our activities and plan our lives. And then abruptly we may be confronted with a crisis … Whether by illness or accident, our potential trajectory is suddenly changed.”

The task of dying well:

“You have to live with awareness of dying, and at the same time balance it against staying engaged in life,” he says. “It’s being able to hold that duality—which we call double awareness—that we think is a fundamental task.”2Gary Rodin, a palliative-care specialist

Despite plans to assure intentions for our final days are fulfilled, there can/will be circumstances beyond our control. Death may come without warning, rendering plans moot. Any dying well plan is a contingency.
The best result for a dying well plan comes in circumstances were control is possible and decisions are made in accordance with expressed desires.

In a perfect world, our final days —end of life — would be laced with “…years of conversation about the need to prepare well for death – medically, communally, and spiritually.”
Because of our cultural aversion to death, engaging in meaningful conversations with family and loved ones may be the most challenging part of dying well.

Goals for Dying Well

Tim Keller’s article: “Growing My Faith in the Face of Death” should be required reading for every Christian.
In the excerpt below Keller conveys two goals of dying well. [my emphasis]

When the certainty of your mortality and death finally breaks through, is there a way to face it without debilitating fear? Is there a way to spend the time you have left growing into greater grace, love, and wisdom? I believe there is, but it requires both intellectual and emotional engagement: head and heart work. And so I set out to reexamine my convictions and to strengthen my faith, so that it might prove more than a match for death.

It is important to be prepared for death, very important; . . but if we start thinking about it only when we are terminally ill, our reflections will not give us the support we need.

-HENRI Nouwen’

STILL ON THE JOURNEY

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    Nessa Coyle, a nurse and palliative-care pioneer,wrote
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    Gary Rodin, a palliative-care specialist

Dying Well 2.0

1,102 days ago an unexpected medical trauma brought me to the brink of death. By the providence of God I survived.

“It’s an open question whether a full and unaverted look at death crushes the human psyche or liberates it.”1Junger, Sebastian. In My Time of Dying: How I Came Face to Face with the Idea of an Afterlife (p. 74). Simon & Schuster. Kindle Edition.

For me, it has been liberating, an occasion for memento mori (“Remember! You will die!”); abolishing an illusion of immortality and producing a new relationship with death and dying. .
…death is not something to be denied, avoided, or even begrudgingly accepted. Death makes the expanse of a lifetime finite and therefore precious. 2Katherine Wolf -Devotionals Daily 

I continue to pursue the subject of death and dying.
Could there be a more relevant subject for a living being?
Some, particularly Christians, say life after death is most important but I contend as long as people believe they are immortal, life after death is irrelevant.

The closest thing to morality in the modern world is oftentimes to avoid making people uncomfortable, unless of course it’s making people uncomfortable about making other people uncomfortable. But if death makes people uncomfortable—and it sure does—then it is very tempting for Christians to want to soften the blow as well.

Fr Stephen Freeman Second Thoughts on Success

“The greatest gift that people can accept at any age is that we’re on borrowed time, and they don’t want to squander it on stupid stuff,”

Anne Lamott

The only clear memory I have from my near death encounter, is seeing kaleidoscope like images of brilliant colors.

STILL ON THE JOURNEY

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    Junger, Sebastian. In My Time of Dying: How I Came Face to Face with the Idea of an Afterlife (p. 74). Simon & Schuster. Kindle Edition.
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    Katherine Wolf -Devotionals Daily