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A New Year – 2023


For the most part, New year’s Day is welcomed with relief and anticipation of a fresh start, a clean slate. An occasion for sincere, but mostly unrealistic, resolutions.
For reasons I struggle to explain, this New Year has a different vibe for me. 2023 emerged ominously as the ball dropped at midnight. Perhaps Ohio State’s missed field goal at the stroke of midnight was prescient, so much hope dashed in reality. Happy New Year ?
Thinking about 2023, I realized that it is not a clean slate, nor a fresh start but is more akin to a roundabout in a continuing journey. As such, there are several possibilities — a new direction —proceed with minimal disruption —or, confused, loop back, re-routing to 2022.
Of the those possibilities, the most desirable, but unlikeliest is minimal disruption. Re-routing to 2022 is not practical nor healthy. New direction is attractive but requires forethought snd strategic planning, neither of which has happened.
I am entering 2023 with baggage from 2022 and anticipate of new challenges. Certain about my destination, I’m still seeking clarity on directions. This quote from Thomas Merton gives much needed perspective for the New Year.

I have been absurdly burdened since the beginning of the year with the illusions of “great responsibility” and of a task to be done. Actually whatever work is to be done is God’s work and not mine, and I will not help matters, only hinder them, by too much care.

Thomas Merton

LOOKING AHEAD

ChatGPT
The arrival of OpenAI’s ChatGPT, a program that generates sophisticated text in response to any prompt you can imagine, may signal the end of writing assignments altogether—and maybe even the end of writing as a gatekeeper, a metric for intelligence, a teachable skill.
The implications of ChatGPT are mind-boggling. I have signed up. Perhaps it is the answer to my blog slog? Feeling discouraged about my blogging, prompted ChatGPT with “Reasons why elderly persons should utilize a blog site.”

This is the response it provided:

Reasons why elderly persons should utilize a blog site

  1. To stay connected with friends and family: Many elderly individuals may be unable to physically visit with their loved ones as often as they would like, but a blog allows them to share updates and keep in touch with those they care about.
  2. To express their thoughts and feelings: Blogging can be a therapeutic outlet for elderly individuals, allowing them to express their thoughts and emotions in a safe and supportive space.
  3. To share their experiences and wisdom: Elderly individuals often have a wealth of life experiences and wisdom to share, and a blog is a great platform for sharing those stories with a wider audience.
  4. To stay engaged and active: Blogging requires the use of technology and can help elderly individuals stay engaged and active, both mentally and physically.
  5. To maintain a sense of independence: A blog allows elderly individuals to have a sense of independence and control over their own content, allowing them to share what they choose and interact with others on their own terms.
  6. To stay current and informed: A blog can provide elderly individuals with access to current events, news, and other information that they may not have access to otherwise.

Keep in mind this response was generated by artificial intelligence, nothing from me but the prompt. It is unreasonable to imagine my future posts could be responses from ChatGPT to a particular prompt? No more blog slog? 🙂 Lots of questions. Would that be unethical on my part? What if I disclosed the post content was from ChatGPT?
I really like the ChatGPT response above, it was helpful in thinking about writing a blog at my age. It is definitely cogent. Would it qualify as wisdom? How is that response different from doing a Google search on a topic and compiling the results? Would attribution to ChatGPT make a difference? How can writing be trusted to be original?

Based on the attention ChatGPT has gotten in media, it to will definitely be conspicuous in 2023.


2022 BAGGAGE

Like many people, 2022 was a challenging personally. Unlike previous years where the new year was greeted with a sight of relief and “Thank God, it’s over!”. For me, 2023 inherits baggage from 2022. Over the course of 2022 there were numerous issues, questions and challenges worthy of — prayer, writing, study, conversation — that were not satisfactorily addressed and remain for 2023. What lies ahead in 2023 could make all of the 2022 baggage moot, but I intend to engage them in the coming year.

Spiritual Formation
Challenged by readings, experiences and conversations related to spiritual formation over the past year, the subject remains a high personal priority for 2023.

War on Reality
An essay started in2022 and originally entitled “What is True and Real?” then renamed “War on Reality” is in my writing cue. Highly relevant to our chaotic culture, I hope to finish it in the 1st quarter of 2023.

THE CHURCH
16 posts in this category over the past two years has not diminished my interest and concern for the church.

Euthanasia
A seldom discussed subject that is increasingly important in our post-modern secular society.

Conversation as a Spiritual Discipline
“the most loving thing one can do is have a meaningful conversation.”
Heather Holleman

Penal Substitutionary Atonement
A long held faith principle has come under scrutiny and a subject of personal interest.

Patriarchy and Masculinity
Critically important subjects for the Church and society.

Book Bag
I’m taking my 2022 book bag with me in 2023. It includes books read, current reading and planned to read. As you can see, some of them relate to the 2022 “baggage”.

STILL ON THE JOURNEY

So Much To Think About

Artificial Intelligence
The implications of ChatGPT are mind-boggling. I have signed up. Perhaps it is the answer to my blog slog?

The arrival of OpenAI’s ChatGPT, a program that generates sophisticated text in response to any prompt you can imagine, may signal the end of writing assignments altogether—and maybe even the end of writing as a gatekeeper, a metric for intelligence, a teachable skill.
What GPT can produce right now is better than the large majority of writing seen by your average teacher or professor. Over the past few days, I’ve given it a number of different prompts. And even if the bot’s results don’t exactly give you goosebumps, they do a more-than-adequate job of fulfilling a task.
I mean, look at this: I asked the program to write me a playful, sophisticated, emotional 600-word college-admissions essay about how my experience volunteering at my local SPCA had prepared me for the academic rigor of Stanford. Here’s an excerpt from its response

In addition to cleaning, I also had the opportunity to interact with the animals. I was amazed at the transformation I saw in some of the pets who had been neglected or abused. With patience and care, they blossomed into playful and affectionate companions who were eager to give and receive love. I was also able to witness firsthand the process of selecting the right pet for the right family. Although it was bittersweet to see some animals leave the shelter, I knew that they were going to a loving home, and that was the best thing for them.

I asked GPT a question from an exam I give in my Eastern-philosophy course, something I’ve never imagined a student could find outside assistance to answer: “Explain the Madhyamaka Buddhist idea that all phenomena lack inherent existence, using a funny, specific example.”

ChatGPT wrote back, as ever, instantly:

The Madhyamaka Buddhist idea that all phenomena lack inherent existence can be illustrated with a funny example: let’s say you have a pet hamster. You might think that your hamster has its own inherent existence, but in reality, your hamster is made up of many different elements such as its fur, its bones, its muscles, and its brain. None of these elements exist independently or inherently on their own, so your hamster itself does not have any inherent existence either. The same goes for all phenomena—everything is made up of various components that don’t have inherent existence, so nothing has any inherent existence either.

Everything is made up; it’s true. The essay as a literary form? Made up. Grammatical rules as markers of intelligence? Writing itself as a technology? Made up. Starting now, OpenAI is forcing us to ask foundational questions about whether any of those things are worth keeping around.

https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2022/12/openai-chatgpt-writing-high-school-english-essay/672412/?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=atlantic-daily-newsletter&utm_content=20221209&utm_term=The%20Atlantic%20Daily

I had planned on using an example from Chat GPT but the traffic on the website is so heavy it was not available. Looks like the word 🙂 is out.


Euthanasia
A follow-up to a previous post on euthanasia:

Michael Fraser—a fan of Pabst Blue Ribbon beer and a volunteer church handyman known as “Church Mike” around his Toronto neighborhood—died at the age of 55 this summer after his longtime doctor administered the lethal drugs Fraser had requested. His wife Ann hugged him and whispered “I love you, I love you, I love you,” as he died in his bed.

Fraser’s doctor isn’t sure his patient should have died this way. “Professional standards were met, it’s legal, but I do feel guilty,” Dr. Navindra Persaud told the Toronto Star. “Someone you know and care about is dead. As a doctor, there is doubt. Could I have done something differently to reduce the suffering?”

Since 2016, Canada’s medical assistance in dying (MAiD) laws have allowed severely or terminally ill and disabled people to choose to die by either euthanasia—lethal drugs administered by a physician—or physician-assisted suicide, which typically entails a provider prescribing lethal drugs a patient then takes independently. To be eligible, Canadian adults must: have an irreversible and advanced illness or disability causing “unbearable physical or mental suffering,” request MAiD voluntarily without external influence, be informed of other treatment options, sign a written request with a witness present, and get assessed and approved by two independent physicians or nurse practitioners. More than 10,000 Canadians died this way last year—up 32 percent from 2020, and accounting for 3.3 percent of all deaths in Canada. Already among the most lax in the world, the measures are set to grow even more permissive: Starting next March, the country will allow people suffering solely from mental illness to seek euthanasia.

Opponents of the laws argue they diminish the lives of people with disabilities and can create pressure on people to kill themselves. “Persons with disabilities may decide to end their lives because of broader social factors such as loneliness, social isolation, and lack of access to quality social services,” United Nations officials wrote in a letter to Canadian leaders last year warning the country’s expanding MAiD laws could violate the UN’s human rights declaration. “A social assumption might follow (or be subtly reinforced) that it is better to be dead than live with a disability.” 

Such concerns are not hypothetical. Roger Foley, hospitalized with a degenerative brain disorder in Ontario, recorded his conversation with a hospital director of ethics earlier this year in which the ethicist reminded him a stay at the hospital would cost “north of $1,500 a day.” According to Foley, hospital staff raised the idea of assisted dying unprompted. Canadian Sheila Elson—whose adult daughter Candace Lewis has several medical conditions including cerebral palsy—said in 2016 a doctor brought up assisted suicide for Lewis in front of the young woman and told Elson she was “being selfish” when she rejected the idea.

Even when protocol is strictly followed—Fraser reportedly initiated the MAiD conversation with his doctor, confirmed his desire several times, and qualified for the program based on multiple non-terminal ailments including liver failure—it’s not always clear a medical condition is at the root of someone’s desire to die. Living on disability payments, Fraser couldn’t afford a more accessible apartment than his second-story walkup, leaving him increasingly homebound as his physical health deteriorated. By the time he died, he hadn’t left his apartment in weeks. “There’s a social aspect to poverty, a hierarchy, that affected his psyche,” Persaud, his doctor, said. “He told me that it did.”

In other cases, financial considerations have played an even clearer role. Facing eviction, Ontario resident Amir Farsoud cited chronic back pain in his application for euthanasia, only to reconsider weeks later when a GoFundMe campaign raised over $60,000 to keep him housed. “I’m a different person,” Farsoud said in November. “I had nothing but darkness, misery, stress, and hopelessness. Now I have all the opposite of those things.”

Farsoud’s story isn’t unique. “Medical assistance in dying cannot be a default for Canada’s failure to fulfill its human rights obligations,” Canadian human rights commissioner Marie-Claude Landry said in May after reports emerged of people seeking euthanasia because they couldn’t find proper housing. “In an era where we recognize the right to die with dignity, we must do more to guarantee the right to live with dignity.”

That phrase—“die with dignity”—is central to most MAiD proponents’ support for the practice. Advocates of assisted death argue it allows people to end suffering on their own terms and timing, rather than having no choice but to endure long illnesses or disabilities they find unbearable. Belgian Paralympic athlete Marieke Vervoort—whose degenerative muscle disease caused seizures, partial paralysis, and other symptoms—waited eleven years after obtaining euthanasia authorization to make use of it and said she benefited from knowing she had control. “I just wanted to have the paper in my hands for when the time comes that it’s too much for me, when, day and night, someone has to take care of me, when I have too much pain,” she told New York Timesreporters. “I don’t want to live that way.” 

Likewise, advocates for expanding assisted death options to people with mental illnesses argue that mental illness can be just as debilitating as other afflictions, produce painful physical symptoms, and resist even decades of treatment—and that excluding people with mental illnesses from assisted death options is discriminatory.

Assisted deaths are allowed in a handful of other countries—Belgium, the Netherlands, Spain, New Zealand, Colombia— but Canada has one of the world’s most permissive programs. While doctors are frequently prohibited from suggesting euthanasia to patients, Canada’s ban on “pressuring” patients doesn’t forbid offering the option. A Veterans Affairs Canada employee offhandedly raised medically assisted suicide as an option to a veteran who called for help dealing with post-traumatic stress disorder and other injuries, for example. And in 2021, Canada removed the mandatory 10-day waiting period between MAID approval and assisted death for patients whose natural deaths are “reasonably foreseeable,” such as those with terminal conditions.

Assisted suicide laws are also spreading across the United States—California, Colorado, Hawaii, Maine, New Jersey, New Mexico, Oregon, Vermont, Washington, and Washington, D.C. all allow some medically assisted deaths, and Montana courts have ruled the state’s constitution doesn’t expressly prohibit them. Oregon recently ended its requirement that terminally ill people seeking assisted death be state residents. In February, Dr. Jennifer Gaudiani, a Colorado physician specializing in eating disorders, published a paper arguingsome people with anorexia who give up after years of failed treatment should have access to assisted death. In March, Vermont began allowing patients to get prescriptions for lethal drugs via telemedicine appointments.

Meanwhile, in Canada, some family members of people who died by assisted suicide or euthanasia are raising alarms about insufficient or poorly enforced safeguards, despite officials’ insistence that there’s no evidence of abuse. In 2019—when Canada still only allowed assisted death for terminal conditions—Alan Nichols, 61, received a lethal injection after listing only hearing loss on his euthanasia application, and despite his family’s alarm over his impaired mental state in the lead-up to his death. 

Nichols had a history of depression and other health conditions, his sister-in-law Trish Nichols said, but none were terminal. In June, Trish testified against expanding euthanasia access further: “Would you feel safe now, bringing your suicidal loved one to seek medical care for recovery when there are no oversight or stringent safeguards surrounding a surrounding a procedure that kills people?”


https://thedispatch.com/newsletter/morning/the-ethics-of-assisted-dying

STILL ON THE JOURNEY

So Much To Think About

Events of the past two weeks have provided much to think about.

Ann and I traveled to Vienna, Austria with our daughter Tanya’s family to join their youngest son Grayson who was studying there for a semester. Our first experience traveling to Europe, it was more than we imagined and a wonderful experience.

During our time in Vienna, we received word that our foster son, Sean Phelps was seriously ill. Sadly he passed away two days later. Our hearts are broken. Although he was in our home for only 4.5 years, he continued to be in our life after being adopted by good friends. We will always consider Sean Ezell Phelps a part of our family.
https://www.dignitymemorial.com/obituaries/louisville-ky/sean-phelps-11038585

VIENNA

Vienna, Austria (from observation deck of Aquarium)
One of many Christmas Markets

We are currently on our way to Florida for our annual snowbird getaway. Looking forward to warm weather and relaxing with friends and family.

STILL ON THE JOURNEY

So Much To Think About

Genuine Worship
Genuine worship leads to awareness, awareness leads to the lament of repentance, lament and repentance lead to a reordering of one’s perception of oneself, others, and the world . . . and that leads to laughter and freedom.

Do you know why unbelievers don’t pray? They don’t pray because they’re afraid that God might be there. Do you know why many Christians don’t pray? Some don’t pray because they’re afraid that God might not be there, and, those who know that he is, also know that God is scary. Many of us would rather do religious stuff, do our best to be obedient, and stay under the radar with our silent trying, than to go before a holy, sovereign, and righteous God. It’s safer that way.
No, it’s not.

Confession, lament, and repentance are hard if you do it to someone who is angry and condemning, and who doesn’t give a rip about you. It is one thing to go before an executioner and quite another to go before a loving father. The prayer Jesus taught his disciples has an incredibly radical beginning—Jesus said we were to start our prayer with “Our Father.” When you start there, the “forgive us our debts” is a whole lot easier.

Do you know the source of true joy and freedom? It’s repentance before a God who should discipline you, but instead hugs you. It’s walking into a dark room and then someone turns on the lights of a Christmas tree. It’s expecting to be condemned, but finding that you’re loved. It’s lamenting who you are, and then realizing who you really are, the child of your Father the King. It’s no longer having anything to prove or protect. It’s no longer having to be right or to pretend to be good.
Steve Brown

aspirational goal.
An aspirational goal is like a good intention without any real attention. It is a slogan without a strategy. It’s right up there with, “I need to lose some weight,” while reaching for another donut.
J D Walt

“the end is where we start”
“Nineteen seventy-four took my mother away from me, but it gave me so much in return…”
“My mother collapsed as her own father was being lowered into the ground, and I never spoke with her again,” he adds. “I saw her a few days later in her hospital bed as she took her last breaths. It was … I mean, people have gone through a lot worse,” he says, describing a few of the horrors he’s witnessed in his work with some of the poorest and most vulnerable people on earth.
“But yeah, death is ice-cold water on a boy entering puberty. T. S. Eliot is right, the end is where we start. You begin your meditation on life often in that kind of moment. I mean, we’re all really in denial most of our life.”
Bono

Conversation
After 18th-century literary icon Samuel Johnson had dinner at a friend’s house, his biographer, James Boswell, asked if the conversation had been any good. “No, Sir,” he said. “We had talk enough, but no conversation; there was nothing discussed.”
Johnson’s friend had offered one kind of hospitality at that dinner party, but not another kind: discussion. Conversation, whether remote or in person, is an exercise in hospitality, or welcoming the other. When we engage someone in conversation, we invite them into our thinking.

Jesus set an example of this, from his first encounters with the disciples to his theological discussion with the woman of Samaria to his many confrontations with the religious leaders who opposed him. Conversation was a primary tool in Jesus’ and the apostles’ ministries.

We live in a world where words abound but conversation is scarce. And it’s easy to think of a place where the ratio of words to conversation seems worst: social media, which 72 percent of Americans use, Pew Research Center says.

One can only wonder what Johnson would have to say about the culture of discourse today, especially in the realm of social media.

But more important is what the Bible says. With Jesus’ and the apostles’ word-based approach to evangelism and discipleship, it is unsurprising that Paul repeatedly warned Christians to demonstrate their faith not only by living well but also by good conversation (Col. 4:6; 1 Tim. 4:12).
Christianity Today

Human flourishing
 “Our hearts are restless until they rest in Thee.” Human life is restless and unfulfilled, less than what it was created to be, until it comes to rest in union with God.
Can an atheist be happy, well-adjusted, fulfilled, and self-actualized? If you say yes, or are tempted to say yes, then you’re assenting to the idea of “pure nature.” You’re assenting to the view that human nature possesses a natural logic of happiness that is open and available to all human persons, simply because they are human persons. Just as the logic of gardening is available to all people, Christian and non-Christian alike, the logic of human flourishing, the science of happiness, is also available to all. An atheist, for example, can make an excellent therapist, possessing access to the science of flourishing, just as they can be an excellent gardener. 
So, have you felt that big switcharoo in your head? At the start of the post we said, “Of course humans have a natural desire for God! Who would be crazy enough to deny it?” But now, after I’ve described the idea of “pure nature,” some of you may be changing your answers: “Wait a minute. I do think atheists can be happy and well-adjusted. I know some.” So which is it? Are those atheists secretly ailing, less fulfilled and actualized in their development because they lack God in their lives? Or are they truly happy without God, all on their own, because God has given human nature the gift of joy simply because we are a human person?  Richard Beck
http://experimentaltheology.blogspot.com/2022/11/the-natural-desire-for-god-part-1-does.html

View from the front porch
Book recommendation:

“…there are moments, unexpected and undeserved, when …our vision is transformed by a bright burst of light. It may only be a brief glimpse, but in those moments we see the world behind the shadows, we see an entirely different way of relating to God, and we long for more. Unfortunately a great many people have settled for a darker existence, one under a shadow in which they relate to God in a way that leaves them discontent.

Jethani, Skye. With (pp. 3-4). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition.

STILL ON THE JOURNEY

So Much To Think About

Being Christ-like
…those who seek to engage their opponents without giving up Christlike character are frequently dismissed as following a strategy that no longer works—as though any of these things were ever a “strategy” in the first place. The way of Jesus and the fruit of the Spirit do not work—and never have—by the metrics of the world. Lifelong marital fidelity doesn’t work either—if the goal is to maximize each man’s spreading of genetic material. For that, orgies work far better than one man and one woman giving their lives only to each other.
Russell Moore

Religion
Religion must beware lest it tone down in any degree the unconverted man’s judgment. Conflict and distress, sin and death, the devil and hell, make up the reality of religion. So far from releasing men from guilt and destiny, it brings men under their sway. Religion possesses no solution of the problem of life; rather it makes the problem a wholly insoluble enigma. Religion neither discovers the problem nor solves it: what it does is to disclose the truth that cannot be solved. Religion is neither a thing to be enjoyed nor a thing to be celebrated: it must be borne as a yoke which cannot be removed…Religion is the misfortune which every human being has to endure, though it is, in the majority of cases, a hidden suffering.
Karl Barth
From a purely human perspective, the church is a group of people who espouse and preach ridiculously high moral aspirations: “We love everyone” and “All are welcome here.” Christians say they exist to love everyone in sacrificial ways. Morally, the church is shooting for the moon. Christians claim for themselves impossible standards of conduct. But all those aspirations do is highlight how Christian’s don’t live up to their lofty ideals. Moral ambition makes moral failure more obvious and visible. No one cares all that much if some random bloke is unkind. But when you’re a Christian people notice your unkindness. They mark it. They hold you to your standards. In the words of Paul, sin is being “reckoned” to you. All you’ve done in declaring yourself a Christian is to make the sin in your life publicly visible as sin. And the worse your sin, the more visible your failure before the world. 
(unknown)

knowing something is true and feeling like it is true are two different things because they reside in different parts of our brain. 

Judge’s response to Alex Jones’ defense
“Yes, I believe what I said was true,” Jones retorted.
“You believe everything you say is true, but it isn’t. Your beliefs do not make something true,” she said. “That is what we’re doing here. Just because you claim to think something is true does not make it true. It does not protect you. It is not allowed. You’re under oath. That means things need to be true when you say them. Don’t talk.”

When we we do good we find truth.
It is easier to learn truth when we are doing good.
Michael Hanegan


Thoughts from an atheist
I think what you want are people whose convictions scale with good reasons and good evidence and good arguments, and intuitions that are tutored by intellectual honesty and honest collisions with the opinions, so that there’s a certain kind of humility and circumspection and discomfort with illogic, and a desire for consistency.

We’ve got this postmodern effort that’s happening over in “Wokistan” that is making everything seem upside down, to a degree that’s insane, divisive and intolerable. And it really resembles a new religion. That’s what’s so awful about wokeness. It’s essentially intellectual dishonesty, plus a willingness to sacrifice obviously innocent people as scapegoats.
Sam Harris

Razor blade in candy

Despite decades of urban legends and rumors about razor blades in apples or weed in candy, sociology and criminal justice researcher Joel Best has yet to document a single instance of children being seriously injured or killed by goodies they collected while trick or treating. 

What kind of society are we living in?
A society where leaders, broadly defined, insist that their political opponents are evil villains will be very different from a society where leaders insist that every human has innate dignity and our differences are subordinate to that. Telling people that the most important unit of society is the “nation” will produce a different kind of society from one in which people are told that the most important unit of society is the individual—or the family.
I shouldn’t have to say this, but if your first response to an 82-year-old man having his skull broken with a hammer is anything other than some kind of expression of outraged condemnation or sympathy for the victim, you’re doing life wrong. Period. Nothing else really enters into it.
Jonah Goldberg

 A cursory reading of the New Testament:
reveals that regenerate Christians are assumed to be in a state of transformation that is measured more in behaviors and attitudes than doctrine…and doctrine without the behaviors and attitudes is suspect at best and damning at worst…
 …reveals that God is deeply concerned with the development of His people, not so much the sins of the world…
 …declares that world is changed through observing the behaviors and attitudes of the people of God by the power of the Spirit. The “church” is to be so radically different it draws attention to itself…
…defines the primary difference to be exhibited is love for each other and the world…love that destroys tribal, racial, and national lines to create one people of God…
…makes clear that the people of God should be most concerned about the holiness of the church, not the moral failings of the world and when they are not…they become just like that which they claim to despise…
 …brings the understanding that Gods power is displayed through sacrificial love and suffering…and any other power is derived from the world and cannot accomplish the works of God…
… reveals that most American Christians have never read the New Testament in even a cursory manner…
The Phoenix Preacher

View from the front porch..
Thinking about the challenge of being a grandparent,
from Richard Rohr :

The final stage of the wisdom journey in mythology is symbolized by the ruling image of the king or queen or what I like to call the grand father or grand mother.

When we can let go of our own need for everything to be as we want it, and our own need to succeed, we can then encourage the independent journey and the success of others. The grand parent is able to relinquish center stage and to stand on the sidelines, and thus be in solidarity with those who need their support. Children can feel secure in the presence of their grandparents because, while their parents are still rushing to find their way through life’s journey, grandpa and grandma have hopefully become spacious. They can contain problems, inconsistencies, inconveniences, and contradictions—after a lifetime of practicing and learning.

Grand parents can trust life because they have seen more of it than younger people have, and they can trust death because they are closer to it. Something has told them along the way that who they are now is never the final stage, and this one isn’t either. We need to be close enough to our own death to see it coming and to recognize that death and life are united in an eternal embrace, and one is not the end of the other. Death is what it is. I am a grand father when I am ready to let go. To the grand mother, death is no longer an enemy, but as Saint Francis called it, a “welcome sister.”

The soul of the grand parent is large enough to embrace the death of the ego and to affirm the life of God in itself and others, despite all imperfections. Its spaciousness accepts all the opposites in life—masculine and feminine, unity and difference, victory and defeat, us and them and so on—because it has accepted the opposition of death itself. Grand parents know that their beliefs have less to do with unarguable conclusions than scary encounters with life and the living God. They have come to realize that spiritual growth is not so much learning as it is unlearning, a radical openness to the truth no matter what the consequences or where it leads. They understand that they do not so much grasp the truth as let go of their egos, which are usually nothing more than obstacles to the truth.

STILL ON THE JOURNEY