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Heading Out or Holding On – Dynamic Stability

This post concludes the Heading Out or Holding On series with some final thoughts and observations on dynamic stability. If you are not familiar with the concept you can read an excerpt HERE from Thomas Friedman’s book “Thank You for Being Late” which introduced the idea to me.

At the conclusion of my previous post I wrote: I have chosen to head out. Making that decision has not exempt me perils of the journey, ie rapids. Dynamic stability becomes relevant to those negotiating rapids or riding a bicycle. 
Having failed as promised in my previous post, my next post will explore dynamic stability in more detail and what it looks like for me negotiating the turbulent waters of these days.

The events of 2020 and now 2021 have created a maelstrom in our lives. For many it has been like negotiating class 5 rapids. The past year has been exceptional, but reality is we often encounter rapids in our lives. The difference in the past year is we have been constantly fighting dangerous rapids with little or no relief. It is difficult to maintain stability in such circumstances. The lessons of dynamic stability can be helpful keeping one stable, assuring survival when difficult times are encountered.

No matter if you are kayaking rapids, riding a bicycle or following Jesus, holding on is not a viable option. To do so assures failure. Holding on is an intuitive response to fear. Kayaker, fearful of whitewater drags his paddle and is quickly overturned. The youngster learning to ride her two-wheel bike, propelled by a starting shove, fearfully drags her feet and falls. Life circumstances overwhelm a Christ follower, consumed by fear, he doubts and grasps his bootstraps.

Confronting fear is key to maintaining stability in dynamic, rapidly changing or unexpected circumstances. For kayakers and cyclers fear is overcome by training and confidence through experience. Understanding and employing counterintuitive principles of paddling and peddling to maintain momentum builds confidence. Ultimately their survival depends upon self-discipline.

Life’s rapids are “…a never-ending series of moral challenges and choices. And you don’t get a moment off. There is no halftime or time-outs. Act or refuse to act, each decision determines your destiny, the moral arc of your life. The darkness is always close at hand, and we fight it off, hour by hour” [Beck], self-discipline will not sustain us.
Life’s challenges are a fearful reality. At this point, Christ followers should rightly proclaim the answer to fear lies beyond us, an infinite loving God whom we can trust to save us. Unfortunately, our disenchanted age renders God irrelevant, making Christ followers’ proclamation nonsensical to the disenchanted.
Christian’s proclamation is further diminished when Christ followers grab their bootstraps rather than trusting God with our fear. Grabbing our bootstraps, holding on, occurs when we co-opt prayer, spiritual disciplines, worship, pietistic actions as means to our own ends rather than tools to engage God. A biblical illustration, that comes to mind, is the people of Israel’s fearful impatience which prompted to them to worship a Golden calf (Ex.32). Doubting God’s promises they chose to worship false gods.

Like it or not, living life is about navigating dynamic waters… from gentle ripples to raging whitewater, There is no turning back. We can never know for sure what we will encounter around the next bend in the river. The challenge is maintaining stability when we hit the whitewater. If faith is an abstraction, it will not suffice in times of crisis. Confronted by undeniable reality, we desperately grab for a life preserver, what we trust the most…ourselves. In doing so, our fears are confirmed, we cannot save ourselves.

Fear is the enemy of dynamic stability. Fear takes hold when reality strips away illusions of immortality, invincibility, infallibility and self-righteousness. Gut wrenching fear overwhelms when we realize we cannot save ourselves. This is the malaise of our secular society, God has been removed and all we have in His place is ourselves. Confronted with our inadequacy and God’s absence, fear dominates our lives.

Sometimes [fear] can have no face at all. If it is successfully avoided, it leaves almost no trace of its presence. And so those of us who are good at avoiding our sources of fear may come to conclude that fear has no part in our story. But we are mistaken. Fear—though not experienced—is still present and a source of bondage. (*)

Maintaining stability when encountering life’s dangerous whitewater depends on our response to fear. It is my belief that fear can only be overcome outside ourselves… through an infinite, transcendent God who created us and loves us.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. 1 John 4:18 NKJV
Such belief does not, as Timothy Keller said when faced with a terminal cancer diagnosis, “…automatically provide solace in times of crisis. A belief in God and an afterlife does not become spontaneously comforting and existentially strengthening. Despite my rational, conscious acknowledgment that I would die someday, the shattering reality of a fatal diagnosis provoked a remarkably strong psychological denial of mortality. Instead of acting on Dylan Thomas’s advice to “rage, rage against the dying of the light,” I found myself thinking, What? No! I can’t die. That happens to others, but not to me. When I said these outrageous words out loud, I realized that this delusion had been the actual operating principle of my heart.
Death is an abstraction to us, something technically true but unimaginable as a personal reality….our beliefs about God and an afterlife, if we have them, are often abstractions as well.
I realized that my beliefs would have to become just as real to my heart, or I wouldn’t be able to get through the day. Theoretical ideas about God’s love and the future resurrection had to become life-gripping truths, or be discarded as useless.

I know what my head says:

When fears are stilled, when strivings cease!
My comforter, my all in all—
Here in the love of Christ I stand.

The question is are they real to my heart?

Still on the journey


Things this Old Man thinks About

From an old man’s perspective, things that are ordinary and unremarkable, often become an occasion to contemplate and speculate. I had such an experience recently in my appointment with my opthalmologist.

When you have diabetes, your vision is vulnerable to its effects and so regular check ups are necessary. I was pleased with my report, no indications of deterioration . There is one troubling issue unrelated to diabetes but common in older persons… sagging skin, in my case my eyelids (not my only sagging skin problem but the one effecting my vision)

It is pretty obvious that my vision is impeded by the sagging eyelid. I notice it particularly when I am reading and it gets worse as the day goes on. Older readers will understand how skin sags more as the day goes on. (I only look in the mirror naked early mornings.) This is not a new problem but it is getting worse. There is a surgical solution for my condition. The doctor and I have discussed this before and it it’s a matter of deciding if and when to have the procedure. No problem.

As we discussed the procedure and the condition, she says, “It is really nothing more than excess skin.”
At that point my old man brain kicks in and I say, “So, it’s kind of like circumcision?”
Doctor chuckles, “Well I’ve never heard it described that way.”
To which, I reply, “Looks like I am coming full circle, 78 years later.”
Realizing the conversation is running off the rails, my old man brain turns to alternative solutions to the surgical procedure.
“Maybe you could just suture my eyelid to the my brow?”
“That would be risky, not any flexibility.”
Undaunted I suggest, “How about an eyebrow ring? That would work and it would be a great conversation piece.”
Doctor is losing interest and has patients waiting, but I persist.
“So what about tape?”
Dr, “yes that could probably help but it might be inconvenient.”
I am thinking, “Yeah, better than circumcision.”

As you can see the tape isn’t all that effective and it doesn’t have the gravitas of an eyebrow ring. Apparently there is circumcision for me in the near future..ok, it is blepharoplasty, not circumcision but…

So later I’m sharing this story with a friend, Alter making my case for the procedure being a circumcision, He muses for a few moments and asks, “So, would that make you a dickhead?”

Still on the journey.

What is True and Real? (8)

This post will end the True and Real series. I have wandered the landscape a bit but hopefully the discussion has raised an awareness of the possibility of faith that is true but not real.

My premise being that secularism’s disenchantment and rejection of transcendence, creates faith that is a mirage, true but not real. The essence of disenchantment is the absence of transcendence, most apparent in the absence of God. Without the divine, life loses its meaning and purpose. The only remaining option for meaning and purpose in a secular age comes from within, each individual becomes their own god. As transcendence is diminished, my religion becomes a commodity in a quest for meaning and purpose. 

I am increasingly convinced the current upheaval in evangelical Christianity is directly related to faith that is nothing more than a mirage. Faced with a pandemic and other realities, our faith has been tested and found wanting.
Timothy Keller gives credence to this proposition in his recent Atlantic article entitled “Growing Faith in the Face of Death”. Excerpts below reflect his struggle with his belief in the face of death. His term is abstraction, an apt synonym for mirage.

…our beliefs about God and an afterlife, if we have them, are often abstractions…. If we don’t accept the reality of death, we don’t need these beliefs to be anything other than mental assents. A feigned battle in a play or a movie requires only stage props. But as death, the last enemy, became real to my heart, I realized that my beliefs would have to become just as real to my heart, or I wouldn’t be able to get through the day. Theoretical ideas about God’s love and the future resurrection had to become life-gripping truths, or be discarded as useless.

When I got my cancer diagnosis, I had to look not only at my professed beliefs, which align with historical Protestant orthodoxy, but also at my actual understanding of God. Had it been shaped by my culture? Had I been slipping unconsciously into the supposition that God lived for me rather than I for him, that life should go well for me, that I knew better than God does how things should go? The answer was yes—to some degree.

American philosopher Jonathan Edwards argued, it is one thing to believe with certainty that honey is sweet, perhaps through the universal testimony of trusted people, but it is another to actually taste the sweetness of honey. The sense of the honey’s sweetness on the tongue brings a fuller knowledge of honey than any rational deduction. In the same way, it is one thing to believe in a God who has attributes such as love, power, and wisdom; it is another to sense the reality of that God in your heart.

Timothy Keller

It is comforting that I, like Keller, struggle “to bridge the gap between an abstract belief and one that touches the imagination”.
The antidote and ultimate vaccine for secularism is unseen reality. My spiritual quest is to seek and engage unseen reality. To put it in Christian vernacular… “Come to know God.” it is there we find meaning and purpose.

Still on the journey.

So Much to Think About

Past Week:
New Cases
382,662
Record high:
1,721,973 Jan 3–Jan 9, 2021

New Deaths
8,552
Record high:
23,726 Jan 10–Jan 16, 2021
per John Hopkins

Peter Kuzmic, a noted theologian from Croatia, is believed to have said, “Hope is the ability to hear the music of the future. Faith is having the courage to dance to it today.”
via JD Walt

Criticism 
firmly believe that institutions and individuals are more responsive to internal critique than external criticism, no matter how thoughtful or eloquent. 

Or, to put it another way, while thoughtful external criticism has its uses, at the end of the day, only the church can reform the church, only the right can reform the right, and only the left can reform the left. In fact, in a hyperpolarized time, critique of the right from the left (or the left from the right) often only serves to empower its targets. 
David French

Mockery
When you start mocking instead of persuading, you signal that you now view someone as an enemy to be defeated, rather than a person to be persuaded…the key to all sin against another is to first dehumanize them…then label them…you have to convince yourself that the other no longer possesses the image of God and God wants them gone as well…we’re all getting too good at this…
Phoenix Preacher

It is all about winning
At this point, at least in the United States, it appears that our cultural meaning has pretty much shrunk down to this: It is all about winning. Then, once we win, it becomes all about consuming. I can discern no other underlying philosophy in the practical order of American life today. Of itself, such a worldview cannot feed the soul very well or very long, much less provide meaning and encouragement, or engender love or community.
Richard Rohr

Tribal
Despite all the contrary rhetoric, contemporary Americans are not highly individualized: we are tribal, in the extreme. It is the group, however constructed, that gives identity, for the identity that is sought is one that covers us, that hides our vulnerability and gives us the safety of those who agree. A tell-tale sign of this dynamic is found in our culture’s anger. Anger is largely driven by shame and we can affirm our tribal protection only by shouting at the outsider. Everything outside the group threatens to unmask us. To an increasing extent, the group to which we belong is that set of people who share our anger.
Fr Stephen Freeman

Proud of America
A false narrative popular today states that Republicans are extremely proud of America and don’t see any faults, while Democrats are embarrassed by America and only see faults. Surveys show this is a gross overstatement. A majority of Democrats are still proud to be American, and majorities in both parties say that some things about America make them ashamed.
By and large, Democrats and Republicans are proud to be Americans, yet they are not blind to the country’s faults.
Allsides Blog. https://www.allsides.com/blog/surveys-show-democrats-not-just-republicans-are-proud-be-american

Love is a paradox
It often involves making a clear decision; but at its heart, it is not a matter of mind or willpower but a flow of energy willingly allowed and exchanged, without requiring payment in return. Divine love is, of course, the template and model for such human love, and yet human love is the necessary school for any encounter with divine love. If we’ve never experienced human love—to the point of sacrifice and forgiveness and generosity—it will be very hard for us to access, imagine, or even experience God’s kind of love. Conversely, if we have never let God love us in the deep and subtle ways that God does, we will not know how to love another human in the deepest ways of which we are capable.
Richard Rohr

Til death do us part…
I have had the pleasure of presiding at many weddings over the years. Three different times, as I prepared the couple to exchange their vows, the groom actually fainted and fell to the ground. But I have never seen the bride faint. To the well-protected and boundaried male ego, there are few greater threats than the words “till death do us part.” 
Richard Rohr

Lean in to painful honesty
We’ve all been in that situation where we want to say something that’s important but there’s also a good chance that we’ll upset someone if we say it. There’s that uncomfortable tension inside us as we go back and forth on whether we should say it or not.
Create a new rule for yourself: if there’s something uncomfortable that you believe is important to say, just say it. Don’t think about it. Just trust that in the long run, more times than not, you’ll be happy that you said it. In fact, chances are, in the long run, other people will be glad you said it.
Mark Manson

Nice Teachers
Some new research looks at how friendly teachers were with their students and compared that to the students’ academic performance in later years. What’s important to note here is that the researchers didn’t look at academic performance in the teacher’s class itself because—surprise, surprise—friendly teachers tend to give higher grades for shittier work. Instead, the researchers focused on how the students did the following academic years. 
Allow me to spoil the pool party and say that, basically, the nicer the teachers, the worse off the students were in the following years. Now, I’m not suggesting that we bring back corporal punishment or hire drill sergeants to teach multiplication tables. But once again, we find that the most important things in life (in this case, being highly educated and understanding a subject) require some unpleasant experiences. 
Mark Manson

The spirit of the age
The spirit of the age declares that if you get the “big” things correct (your political ideology, your complementarian or egalitarian theology) then cruelty and self-righteousness in the pursuit of those goals are either minor flaws (“bad manners”) or outright virtues (after all, didn’t Jesus drive the money-changers from the temple with a whip?)
David French

Listening to vinyl
…listening to music on vinyl is more like sitting down to a nice relaxed meal and listening to music using a streaming service is like fast food in your car while your driving somewhere you don’t really want to go.
Matt Redmond

View from the front porch
Enjoying my return to the front porch, some pondering peaked my curiosity. I am greatly encouraged about the pandemic. Vaccines are having a positive effect on infections and deaths and restrictions are being reduced. Hoping to get my second vaccination next week. From my perspective, one of the most positive things that could be done to end the pandemic is to encourage people to be vaccinated. Thinking about that, I am disappointed and curious that churches have been mostly silent about encouraging members to get vaccinated. Churches are anxious to return to normal gatherings, why wouldn’t they push hard for vaccinations? Hmmmm? Just asking for a friend.


LISTEN FOR THE WEEK

Still working on my funeral playlist. Not sure the crowd can be replicated at the funeral but…

What is true and real? (7)

It’s been more than a month since my last “What is True and Real?” . This post continues the series. Richard Rohr’s latest post entitled “The Gospel Lens” is the basis for this post. Excerpts from Rohr’s post set a framework for some thoughts on worldview and continued discussion on “What is True and Real?”

The problem is …. Any time someone interjects with “The problem is…” I am immediately reminded “seldom is the presented problem the real problem” . The point being not to reject but always probe deeper.
It is with the expectation that you will probe deeper, I say …“the problem is extremism”  extreme : something situated at or marking one end or the other of a range

Everybody looks at the world through their own lens, a matrix of culturally inherited qualities, family influences, and other life experiences. This lens, or worldview, truly determines what we bring to every discussion.  When Americans identify money as “the bottom line,” they are revealing more about their real worldview than they realize.

Our operative worldview is formed by three images that are inside every one of us. They are not something from outside; they have already taken shape within us. All we can do is become aware of them, which is to awaken them. The three images to be awakened and transformed are our image of self, our image of God, and our image of the world. 

We would do well to get in touch with our own operative worldview. It is there anyway, so we might as well know what this highly influential window on reality is. It’s what really motivates us. Our de facto worldview determines what catches our attention and what we don’t notice at all. It’s largely unconscious and yet it drives us to do this and not that. It is surely important to become conscious of such a primary lens or we will never know what we don’t see and why we see other things out of all perspective.

Richard Rohr

Refrains like : “I just don’t know what to believe anymore.” or “I don’t believe anyone.” are clear indications of cognitive dissonance that prevails in our culture. I believe Rohr is correct in his assertion that our worldview “truly determines what we bring to every discussion” The third of Rohr’s three images in us that forms our operative worldview is our image of the world. The other two images … image of self… image of God…will be the subject of later posts. It is …our image of the world..I want to consider.

The refrains cited above and reasonable assessment of our culture testify to a culture defined by mistrust and doubt. Conversations quickly reveal distrust of governments, religious and educational institutions, corporations , media, science, experts of any ilk. Sadly, friends and family are often included as untrustworthy. Much like a friend quipped, decades ago, “I’m pretty sure you and I are the only ones right about this, and I’m not so sure about you.”

It should be no surprise in this secular age many believe there is only one reliable source for what is true and real … themselves. That would be troubling in and of itself, but the conversations I’m having are with Christians. Secularism is polar opposite of Christianity. It appears cultural warriors have been out flanked. Christians, as Rohr suggests, …would do well to get in touch with our own operative worldview“.

Our de facto worldview determines what catches our attention and what we don’t notice at all. It’s largely unconscious and yet it drives us to do this and not that.

We have a de facto worldview shaped by the secular age. I’ve written about that previously. Our operative worldview, primarily expressed in distrust, is being shaped by extremism.

Mistrust, skepticism, of the entities mentioned earlier is not new. Such is the nature of human interactions. We we are all well aware of human potential for evil. It is healthy to be skeptical but unmitigated distrust is toxic.

Distrust sows distrust. It produces the spiritual state that Emile Durkheim called anomie, a feeling of being disconnected from society, a feeling that the whole game is illegitimate, that you are invisible and not valued, a feeling that the only person you can really trust is yourself.
Distrustful people try to make themselves invulnerable, armor themselves up in a sour attempt to feel safe. Distrust and spiritual isolation lead people to flee intimacy and try to replace it with stimulation. Distrust, anxiety, and anomie are at the root of the 73 percent increase in depression among Americans aged 18 to 25 from 2007 to 2018, and of the shocking rise in suicide. “When we have no one to trust, our brains can self-destruct,” Ulrich Boser writes in his book on the science of trust, The Leap.

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Our biggest problem is not sin; it’s our broken ability to trust. That’s why we sinned in the first place. We didn’t trust in the goodness of God. The healing we most need is the healing of our broken capacity to trust. That’s the problem behind all of our problems.

J D Walt

The prevailing operative worldview is shaped by by a view of the world seen in the extreme. Facilitated by media and technology we see the world magnified to the extreme, an equivalent of bacterial bed buddies.

Bacterial Bed Buddies

Dead skin cells, sweat, saliva, and more can turn your comfy bed into a petri dish for germs to grow. For instance, lab tests found that swabs from pillowcases unwashed for a week harbored 17,000 times more colonies of bacteria than samples taken from a toilet seat.

Information that is true, when viewed in the extreme is unreal. Unreal in the sense that it does not reflect reality. It is true but not real. Reality is the sum of all parts. Bacterial bed buddies are true but they do not reflect reality. They are one minuscule part of a vast reality, which when understood in proper perspective will produce healthy outcomes… enjoying freshly washed bed linens and sleeping soundly. Magnified out of proportion they produce anxiety, fear and disproportionate responses.

Rohr puts it this way: People with a distorted image of self, world, or God will be largely incapable of experiencing what is really real in the world. They will see things through a narrow keyhole. They’ll see instead what they need reality to be, what they’re afraid it is, or what they’re angry about. They’ll see everything through their aggressiveness, their fear, or their agenda. In other words, they won’t see it at all.

Society’s (our) gross misbehavior, comes from viewing a world distorted by extremism. Ever present media depicts what is true, but seldom real. We are lost in the desert desperately pursuing a mirage, living in panic, fighting bacterial bed buddies.

I have no optimism that secular society will embrace what is true and real. My hope lies in the transcendent reality of the Kingdom of God, where what is true and real dwells.

To that end, my prayer remains,
“Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

Still on the journey.